It sounds like you both have very low self esteem and confidence. Don’t compare yourselves, you are very different and beautiful in your own ways. By the sounds of it, she feels very bad about herself,  she may not see how she gets guys and doesn’t have to worry about her weight. You can’t pressure her into believing how perfect she is, even though she is in your eyes, because if that’s how badly she is affected, she won’t believe it. Try dropping more hints about what you like about her, how good she is looking etc, and in turn she will help you, so you both grow your confidence together. Also stop comparing yourself to people! I bet they compare themselves to you all the time including your friend! Appreciate what you’ve got and make the best out of it because you know what I bet no other girl can out shine you in your amazing legs for example, and she may wish she had your legs, but then you wish you had her hair and on it goes! Well done for doing something about yourself, thats a brilliant start, but don’t get worried about people noticing, as long as you know you are getting healthier, then thats what is important! Accept compliments. That person made it for a reason, they are not lying to you. Don’t deny yourself, start to believe more in yourself and people will believe in you. Simple as. You are wonderful. You are unique and amazing, and stunning, and I hope it all gets better xxxx

ddustontheground:

just got round to replying to some messages, will continue now. Sorry for ignoring them, I was just so wound up in myself and my problems, I felt I didn’t deserve you lot, and you didn’t deserve to deal with me with how I was acting

Laura xxx

It does look like he is interested, definitely, and I know this is one of the most difficult situations to be in. Try bringing up the girl again, see how he feels. Keep the flirting up, don’t act all elusive and ignory, because truthfully, he will get bored unless he is properly into you, which we can’t be sure about at this moment in time. Keep going the way you are, with the flirting and texting, keep building the relationship up, and good luck! Keep me informed on how it is going!xxx

I am so sorry I have no clue! Have a look at gurl.com, they might have some advice about it on there. Do what you feel comfortable with, your comfort is the most important thing!

I sort of know how your friend feels. Drifitng totally sucks, so do whatever you can to prevent it but still let her be who she wants. Give her space, let her be with her other friends, because it is good she is branching out, and chances are she is happy with them as well as being happy with you. Although she isn’t coming to many meetups, don’t tell her off for avoiding you, or never seeing you, because again, she is probably dying to and just doesn’t have a chance or it is inconvenient, not that she doesn’t want to or doesn’t care. Tell her simply that you feel like your drifting and you want anything in  the world to stop that, because by the sounds of it you do. Try meeting up on her terms, suggest something, plan it together and then invite everyone else (if you want), because she will feel way more included. Finally, if she is in a mood or w/e and you are all happy and semi ignoring it, don’t. She wants you to care and be there for her, not ignore how she feels (even though it doesn’t seem like you are) try having longer and more frequent conversations. Eventually it should make you as friendly as you once were. I have no clue whether that will work for her, but I put myself in the situation and thought about what I would feel like. I hope it helps nevertheless, keep me informed! Stay beautiful xxx

its hard, very hard, I am personally struggling with that also. Try to switch off the internet, unless you need it and in that case, change passwords to anything that might distract you. Get a family member or a friend to do it, and so when you are done, they can login for you. Keep having regular breaks, so you don’t overwork or over stress yourself. For example 20 mins of revision 10 minute break. Stay hydrated. Stay positive. If you like listening to music whilst you work, choose a completely random artist ( maybe in the style you like, or a recommendation) and listen to one of their albums. That way you won’t get distracted by the lyrics and melody, but can enjoy it for what it is. I hope those small tips helped, and good luck with your exams, I am sure you will be wonderful and get great grades! Try your hardest in what you do xxx

I know what you mean, that feeling of wanting him to just be yours, and care for you and talk to you and be there for you. And you aren’t being crazy being like that, its natural. I would talk to him about it, I know you have before briefly, but have a proper sit down. As awkward as it may sound, getting things out in the open can help so much. I am sure when he realises how much this means to you, he may tone it down a bit, talk to you more, focus more on you. But he still obviously has to talk to his friends, but then in the greater scheme of things, you have that clear assurance and you know for sure that he is there for you. Hope this helped, keep me updated!xxx

awh I am really pleased for you! especially as you are building the relationship and becoming better friends and well as possibly greater things. I think, that no you aren’t looking into it, but don’t get dragged away with high hopes, because he could completely change, you never know. So keep going as you are, continue to build it and see where it goes. Make sure you don’t get hurt. I think he does like you a bit, but you never know, so play it safe, it keep  it up, you are doing brilliantly! Stay beautiful and keep keeping me updated, it made me smile to see this!xxx

its not petty! if you are worried about it then it is the opposite! the way I made some friends was by going onto a tinychat and I put my webcam on and from then on spent the whole evening chatting away! it may seem awkward at first, but once you join in more, you can make more friends and have such fun! also just try and start a conversation with someone who you think seems really nice! I started talking to emma and we chatted for a while and she helped me with some stuff, and too make life easier we started talking on skype, and doing webcam calls and such. Just go with it, start talking to a few people, join some tinychats and relax, be natural, be you and you will make so many friends! try it!xxx

not of the top of my head, although you can certainly try me, I will do my best!xxx

its ok lovely! hope it works out ok, it can be the most frustrating, heart breaking and confusing situation, and I am just getting over it! definitely do, I would love to know!xxx

It doesn’t sound like you are reading into this, it does sound like he has genuinely been flirting with you and just won’t face it. I was/am in a situation similar to this and it is so frustrating! perhaps, if you are as into this as you think he is, when he actually hints to meet up, go for it and try to organise something, see how it goes and what happens, maybe from there you can try and move into something more and just the awkward flirtationship. Failing that, if he continues with this, try to not flirt back, simply act as friends and see what he does, whether he continues or stops. Also and finally, try and move on. I know that right now it is the opposite of what you want to do but honestly, if he is going to keep dragging you through this and head fucking you, you shouldn’t have to deal with that, you are so much better, honestly. I really hope he sees how amazing you are, and realises what to do, whether close friends or ideally something more. But sometimes they can just do this and not commit, or continue with the mixed signals and its not good for you, trust me. If he makes you this worried, you shouldn’t have to deal with that. So, try what I suggested, and if I was rubbish, ask me again and I will try again :-) if anything does happen, tell me! I would love to know how it goes! stay lovely and inform me of anything you wish xxx