Anonymous asked: Did you change your main url

yeah, I need to change it on here, its is now ddustontheground xxx

Anonymous asked: (2nd part) .. few days ago her older brother raped me, i feel so ashamed and sad, i can't tell anyone about this because i have no one to talk to and if i told this family they would kick me out and i don't have anywhere else to live, but i can't stand being raped again, i really don't know what to do with my life, also i used to steal money from these people to get drugs, i feel so ashamed, i can't live like this anymore :/

ok lets start with the drugs: you dont need them. try and get help somewhere, maybe say your going to the shops and go to a clinic and talk about it with them. a guy at mu church works for a drugs addiction help centre, I will try and find out what it is, but for now I have found this place http://(www).addictionhelper(.com)/help-for-myself/, you can ring them confidentially and talk about it, mabye find a centre nearby for you to pop in and get some more help! try it out! if not I will post a link to where the guy works and you can try there!

now although this may not sound ideal, have you thought about a youth hostel or a homeless centre? you cannot go on living in fear in a house with someone who may rape you and has done in the past, its not fair and its not right. if you do go to a youth hostel you can tell them about what happened and maybe they can take some action against him. It is a place to say, its safe and it can be like a community, I am sure it would be better for you…have a look at some local ones, and speak to them about coming in maybe even just for a visit, I am sure that they will be very supportive. With drugs help and a solid home hopefully you shouldn’t have to steal anymore, its not good lovely! you don’t need drugs and you don’t need to do that!

Try those two things and maybe come back to me and tell me how its getting on, I really do hope that it will get better, stay strong xxxx

Anonymous asked: (1st part) i started smoking pot when i was 12, before i knew it i was on hard drugs, i got addicted my parents found out and kicked me out of house, i dropped out of school by the age of 14, i lived for a year with my bf who was also my drug dealer, i loved him and i thought we had a future together but he dumped me because of another girl, since then i've been living in my friends house with her and her parents ( i'm 16 and a half now). they are really nice and caring but...

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Anonymous asked: My friend and I fancy the same person, I'm scared she's going to get hurt

do you think that he likes you more than her then? sorry could I have some more detail so I can properly help? (: xxx

Anonymous asked: I'm bestfriends with this girl and everyone loves her. She's oe of those people that can talk to people so easily and is always really confident and one of those people that can be themselves and everyone instantly wants to be her friend and i always feel like im in her shadow and stuff. I'm really awkward and im only really friends with a handful of people but she has like millions of friends, im kinda a package deal that no one really wants :/

you are wanted so much! think about it if so many people want to be her friend and she is best friends with you, she obviously thinks you are an amazing person! I am sure you are just as funny and kind, but you sound as though you lack confidence when it comes to talking to new people and socialising as such…I would suggest trying to hang around more with the people who want to hang around with her, get to know them, talk to them etc and they will see what a brilliant person you are! I promise that they will love you just as much as her, just go for it and maybe you won’t feel like such a package deal but part of a group!xxx

Anonymous asked: I don’t see the point anymore to be honest. The point in fighting. The point in holding on. The point in pretending to be happy when I'm not, i can't live like this anymore it's pointless.

there is always a point to hold on. the ones who love you, how distraught they would be, how many people would miss you no matter whether you believe it or not, the small moments of happiness. I pretend I am happy most of the time, but hopefully soon, one day we can stop that, and a bet sometimes you are happy, just for a tiny bit…your life is not pointless I promise you! I would like you to come off anon, so I can help you more, I felt like you once xxxx

Anonymous asked: so when i text them and then see them the next day how do i act normal? also i go to parties with them and they see me when i have had drink when im really sociable and i just feel concious around them as if i will say something wrong or they wont care! x

you text your friends and them see them the next day, just act normal, extra talking will just make it easier for the conversation to flow in real life! at a party when people have had a drink most people wont worry about what you have said, they will understand that you were tipsy/drunk hopefully! also if your sociable at partys that may give you a chance to talk more, and if you feel concious try not to drink as much, but you can still be all sociable!xxx

Anonymous asked: I feel like shit all the time, I can't do anything right or concentrate on any work either for school or whatever because i feel so depressed all the time, i used to self harm when i was younger then stopped for few years and now i started doing it again because i'm too weak and that's the only way i can cope with my emotions.

please please promise me that you wills top! I know it must feel like such a release and a way to drain all your problems, but its really not! before you act try and think about the people around you and how distraught they would be if they saw you doing it, or even your scars. You were so brave for stopping, you have got to keep going and not doing it anymore, it will be so much better for you mentally and physically! Try and think of those split seconds of happiness, maybe when a friend makes you laugh, or you see something funny on the tv…those moments of pure joy where you forget everything, they are so important and so special and more and more are still to come! Keep strong lovely think of the future and when your like 30 and how this will just be a small blip! you are beautiful and so loved and you can get through this! also try and exercise, even if its something silly like just dance, its meant to help with depression and you will have fun at the same time, even if you end up looking like an idiot! Keep strong and keep me updated on how its going beautiful xxxx

Anonymous asked: basically i am quite shy around people, particularly boys and the embarassing thing is that im 17. i have two girl best friends and we hang around with 5 other guys one who i like who i know well but dont talk that much when im with them because i always think how beautiful and skinny my best friends are who both have bfs outside the group. i talk to them on text and im fine but in person i just cant pluck up the confidence to just be myself, i have only been kissed once and never had a bf :( x

I am sure you as beautiful, if not more! just because they have bfs doesnt mean that they are any better than you! I have never had one and most of my friends have! with the guy you like, try and be more daring, maybe just hang around with him more whenever you meet up and try to have a little flirt (if anything its good practice and always fun!) If they hang around with you most of the time, then of course they would all love to see the real you, go ahead and try it I am sure that they will just love you even more!xxx

Anonymous asked: There is a guy i have one class with, when we are in that class together (food) we talk like crazy and flirt a bit but otherwise from that class we don't speak at all, i kinda like him a bit and i want to know him better, but he is quite popular and friends with guys who don't like me because i'm like the opposite of popular haha. What do i do?

first of all, he obviously thinks that you are lovely and a really good friend if not possibly more by the way he is flirting with you and talking to you! maybe if you try and start a fbc with him, or slip in about exchanging numbers, you could say you need help with food tech work? don’t worry about his guy friends, all that matters is you and him and how it works out!xxx

Anonymous asked: hey are you confident around guys because if you are i need your help! :) xx

I’d say pretty confident (: go for it, I will try my best!xx

Anonymous asked: Funnily enough we're actually getting a wii tomorrow, hahaha. I'll definitely buy a zumba game thingy for it as soon as I've got the money. Thankyou! xx

hehe good good then! any dance exercise games are lots of fun! for now you could always get a yoga cd, I’m buying one, its so relaxing and fun and yeah, I love it hehe! It’s ok lovely (: xxx

Anonymous asked: I am such an inactive person, but mainly because the area I live in isn't the type where you can go for walks or run. Do you have any advice on how I can lose weight at home? And my family eats bad so we always have crap food in the house, how can I avoid it? (I know you're not a diet blog, but hey I'm asking for advice.)

hehe I said ask whatever you like, so this is great! depending on your age, i definitely would not recommend hard core dieting, but it sounds as though you have the right idea with exercise and eating healthy, which is exactly what you need to be doing! do you have a wii or a running machine or even a cd player? on the wii you could do ‘just dance’ (great fun and a good workout) zumba etc, and running machine is obvious (running) or you could always buy a yoga or aerobic cds! I love you, its so relaxing and it a really good workout for your muscles! Food wise, try and introduce more fruit and veg that you actually like, and try and stop snacking, or if you do eat more fruit or cereal bars that will keep your fuller for longer and supply nutrients! I really hope this helped, feel free to ask any more!xxx